Thursday, September 27, 2007
True Love, anyone??
Hey guys...I know...its been a long time since I last blogged.
To put it bluntly, I usually cannot find anything really worth blogging about...everyday the same old things, the getting up and the lying down, the coming in and the going out, the laughing and the crying, the sun and rain, tree and grass...etc.
If I were to blog, its probably because
A) I'm bored
B) Its fun
C) I have something to say
Today, I and some of the guys spent a little time talking about love. As I am writing, I do feel a little tired...
What is true love? After thinking about this for a long time (1.5 years), I have decided that true love cannot be explained. =)
If you want to ask what love is about, people can talk about it until their words fill a book that is as thick as the bible and still it wouldn't give you any clear cut and direct answers.
Sometimes, when we have experienced true love, we will automatically know that it is it. For teenagers like myself, no matter how hard we think we know true love, it always slips away from us. We go after it, we pursue it, we work to get it...become tired, exhausted and weary over it and realise that we do not understand it.
Many times, the church sets a certain guidelines for behaviour between a guy and and girl. But love and relationships, being undefined, will not adhere to just one couple. The glory of the Lord's hand in creating relationships between people is that no two couple can ever be the same. Similar perhaps but never the same and each will always have their own story to tell.
Sit back, relax and stop worrying about true love, allowing it to come after you, rather than trying to take it yourself. Love is one thing you can't buy nor is it something you work for to get. Its not like a job where I can work to get a promotion.
I can't be sure that if I
1) Call the girl
2) Buy her presents
3) Go out with her
4) Sms her daily
5) Be extra caring
6) Be very sweet to her
7) Make personal sacrifices...
And then BOOM. She's mine. In fact the term "She's mine" is already wrong.
It is unfortunately human tendency to think about who you are going to have as a partner and "wanting" this person or "wanting" that person.
For me, I believe that love is more about...not "I want her" but rather, "I want to fulfill her wants". Its very similar to our walk with God. Self denial.
Self denial is clearly expressed as God's defination of love, which is the closest explaination I can find for true love 1 Cor 13:4-8:
Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away.
And...I realise that it no longer matters whether or not the girl or guy wants you back. You just want her or him to be happy =)
May I also strike a balance? =)
Recognising that I am NOT the all knowing wizard in the universe, having no right to pass judgement but I do wish to express my dislike for people who attain noble love.
Please O please don't ever be a saint or martyr in love and let me know about it because I WILL slap you. (I'm joking =) Thou shalt not raise thy hand against thy brother.)
I am referring to people who are infatuated but instead insist on believing that they have attained true love. You will recognise these people easily.
These people will tend to be very miserable on the outside, look miserable and go around saying, "Oh...*sniff*...I'm so glad that she's happy...*sniff*...since I can't give her the happiness, *SNIFF*, I'm glad someone else can and I wish them all the best."
And inside the person's mind and body, it will be like:
"O Lord! What a sacrifice your servant has made this day! But I do this for her and for You and see how my heart breaks!! O, I am so noble! I can't believe that I can be so noble! But I must be strong for the girl that I love! She is happy...but oh woe is me! Woe is ME!!"
or...
"I did so much for you, you know how I cry every night because of you? Do you know that I am suffering so much for your sake? I really love you so much...but if you don't want to be with me, I understand, I know I am not worthy. I know that there are better guys for you out there. Don't worry about me. If I can't give you happiness, then someone else will. Don't bother to contact me anymore. It hurts so much to leave you...ohh I feel like fainting already... But nevermind...its ok...enjoy yourself ok? smile =)...bye..."
Be a good man and a good woman! Noble acts are public. Acts of true love are done in secret. If you sacrifice for someone you really love, do it with a good attitude man! Don't sacrifice and show everyone how miserable you are...sigh...
Why I say this? I used to be like that...maybe I still am? But then I realised that true love does not exist there. When you make any kind of sacrifice for someone you really love, you'll be happy in a sincere genuine way.
I'm not talking about a dog's love. We are people. Not dogs. We are not supposed to have sheer joy simply serving a person like slaves. Its hard to explain...but when the time comes, you'll know =)
True love doesn't have to be returned =) God never expected us to love Him back when He gave us love. He only wanted us to be happy.
People say, "Wow, if thats true, then let us drink, sleep around, cheat and tell lies! It makes us happy! Its such a pain to keep the rules!"
No they don't make you happy. If loving God makes you unhappy, then don't love Him. You are not and have never been forced to.
We all think that we know what will make us happy.
But only God knows what will give us true and eternal happiness.
ARGH! This entry is too long. I'm sorry, I'm flipping out writing this.
I realise that what I wrote above is true. Thoughts of love can fill 10000 books and it wouldn't be enough.
I'm ending here. Bye! =)
Posted by The Inflamed at 10:25 PM
